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Changing attitude toward your relationship: more argumentative, critical or distant - less affectionate - increased need for "space".
Unexplained absences: staying later at work: leaving the office for lunch more often - spending more time "with friends" or pursuing a new hobby during evenings and weekends - frequently off running lengthy "errands".
Increase in personal expenses: seems to go through pocket money at a faster rate - credit card spending jumps.
Changing telephone use patterns: spends more time on the phone: seems anxious to be first to answer phone when it rings - mysterious incoming calls, hang-ups, "wrong numbers" - suddenly "needs" a new cellphone or pager.
Greater attention to personal appearance: begins a crash diet or exercise program -- trendy new wardrobe, fragrance, hairstyle or nails.
Added interest in the mail: wants to limit your access to it, especially phone bills, bank, and credit card statements - personal letters (but probably not postcards) from a long-lost "friend" or "relative".
Articles of unknown origin: slips of paper with names, phone numbers, dates/times/locations stashed in pockets, wallet or purse - receipts showing unmentioned purchases - matchbooks from unknown bars or restaurants - strange cigarette, gum or food wrappers in vehicle.
Mysterious bite marks, bruises, scratches, skin irritations: can't explain how "that got there".
Changing sex drive: decreased interest in sex - more aggressive/hostile during sex and less tender/romantic - newfound knowledge regarding a previously unexplored technique or position.
Unexplained odor or stain: comes home smelling of cologne or tobacco that is clearly not their own - lipstick on shirt collar - stained clothing.
