Con artists charm their way into a woman's heart, lie to her, and too often, take her for all she's worth.  Here are some tips to keep you away from a con man.

Signs You're Involved With A Con Artist

  • Pressure to get married
Marriage is far too important in life to be rushed.  Be wary of a wedding or proposal out of the blue.  If a man makes you believe your marrying him is a matter of life or death if you don't marry him — he's up to something.

  • Vague answers to questions about his past
Always ask questions about your mate's background or past.  If he refuses to answer these questions, be suspicious.  If he does answer the questions, and you wonder if he is telling you the truth, look up the information he gives you on the Internet.
 
  • Questionable financial worth
If a man brags about how much he is worth or claims to be broke because he is paying child support, that can be checked out also.  Have him show you income tax records for several years before you merge finances. Always get proof, if you aren't sure.  Also, be aware if he is always asking to borrow money.
 
  •   Lies about his age
A man lying about his age is cause for concern.  He may try to change the date because the real date of his birth is on a warrant for his arrest somewhere.  If he claims that there was a mistake on his birth certificate, or his job made a mistake, he is lying.  It's illegal to change your birth date.
  
  • Multiple social security numbers
Having more than one social security number is illegal.  If a man has more than one, he is using it to scam money or avoid the criminal justice system.  If he claims to be a victim of identity theft, have him show you documentation.

What You Have And Do That Makes You Vulnerable To A Con

  • You have something worth getting
These types of men are looking for a woman with something they can take.  You don't have to be wealthy or be an heiress to a huge fortune.  If you have a job and a little bit of room on your credit card, this may attract him.

  • Believing the grand gesture
Willingness to interpret questionable behavior as love.  For example, a man goes to a woman's house when she is not there, gets her stuff and puts it in his place.  This is not the loving gesture it might appear to be.  For one thing, it's theft.  Secondly, it is meant to control her and get her in his world as soon as possible.  Also, be wary if he proposes quickly in the relationship. 

  • Testing boundaries with money
Usually, this occurs early in the relationship.  For example, he may ask you out to dinner and when the check comes say, "Oh, honey, I left my wallet in the car."   Your response should be, "Oh, honey, I left mine at home."